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Monday, January 24, 2011

Return to the States Recap...

Just as I suspected I waited too long to write, so I have forgotten all the little anecdotal stories and details to share, so this will be a broad brush stroke recap of the visit.

Overall the visit was fabulous, just what I needed and wanted.

I made a last minute decision to leave on a night bus on the 4th instead of leaving first thing in the morning on the 5th... I had my homies visiting December and January as we celebrated Navidad and rang in the new year together (Good times!). I was totally Not focused on my task at hand which was, "prepare for your trip to the states and figure out the details of your travel..." So what it was instead was "run around on the 4th saying my goodbyes, final cleanings of clothes and house, trying to predict weather and activities aaaaannd just hoping for the best. Better safe than sorry, if I end up not packing my toothbrush not as big of a deal as missing my plane ya'mean?

So taking a night bus meant arriving in Gquil early morning when my flight wasn't until the PM. I hadn't notified that Gquil crew that I was going to be coming through so I figured I would just chill in the airport (oh goodness this is going to be a long post I suspect...) I send a last minute text (which actually didn't work the first several times) notifying the Guayas girls. I have a wonderful bus trip to Gquil, get let out right by the airport and end up meeting up with my two Guayas Gems. First Molls who gave me hugs and a bed to nap in (angel!) then Sabriga and I grabbed a bite to eat at my favorite Falafel spot on the Malecon. I am SO glad that I went ahead and went on that night bus and got to see my old site mates.

The airport experience struck me as...fancy..I dunno, I guess if you're flying out of Ecuador that means you have plata, i.e. money. Everyone was so super jazzy and oozing with wealth. I noted to myself...culture shock number one and I haven't even LEFT The country! That's the the thing about Ecuador. There is such a divide. There are some Extremely wealthy people here and there is extreme poverty and they are often juxtaposed in close proximity.

I first flew into Quito and waited and waited and interminable amount of time, but thank God for my antiquated ipod, and journal. Finally it was time to board the plan to Miami. It was soooooooo fancy lol I don't have another word. It was huge, it had movie screens they were serving wine, it was like every seat was first class!

When I arrive into Miami, everyone is STill speaking Spanish....and things are a bit crazy getting through "customs". Then came the task of finding my gracious friend who was picking me up...without a cell phone. It's fine, I'm not too cool for a pay phone. After finally locating them I pick up the phone, read the directions, dial the number....the operator voice instructs me that it will $1.00 for 5 minutes!!! Wha!? Back in the day weren't pay phones $.25 for an endless amount of time!? So already you know my mind is like, for that I could get a bowl of soup, some lentils, a mountain of rice, some plantains and a jugo!!! BUT I was like ugh-uh Jen you are in the US you can't be doing that the whole time. I also didn't have 4 quarters...so I lug my stuff around to find someone that can change out my dolla, and then I go back to utilize my $1 to the fullest in my 5 minutes allotted.

Candi picks up (whew) she's already at the airport!! Sweet! This should be easy, I tell her I'm just going to head downstairs and wait outside of XYZ airline. So I should see her soon right!? MAn LOOOONG story short, poor girl is driving around for and hour? Hour and a half? I don't even know, and I'm trying to borrow people's cell phone to call and see what's going on. It turns out that even though I did indeed go down some stairs...that I was "UPSTAIRS" as far as pick-up places go. *Argh, chagrined from lack of cell phone *


It was soooo good to see my friend and that was the official kick off of the slumber party!!! Oh did I mention it was my birthday, yeah by the time I landed in Miami it was January 6th, my birthday, and all I wanted was a mellow time with the girls to catch up, laugh, cry, share, and bond. And that we Did. Now it is Slumber Party Code that what happens at the slumber party stays at the slumber party but here are some pics of the fun times.
Really the most fun was lounging with our hair wrapped up in scaves, sharing blankets and eating the must incriminating snacks imaginable...but you know my fabulous friends were NOT tryin to be caught on camera like that :)



Speaking of snacks may I take a moment to talk about what I was eating!?!? Doritos, Blue Bell Ice Cream, Oreas, Pizza and more Pizza, Chocolate Chip Cookies, Cheese Dip, Pita Chips, Hummus, Brownies...I mean just snack, junk, processed, ridiculously delicious and fun. After about 4 days I actually could see the weight gain in my face..but did I stop? Oh no, Soda, chocolate covered pretzels, Krispy Kremes, Seasame Sticks...I mean really the list is endless..breakfast lunch and dinner doing the most and it was sooo much fun!

I am really grateful to my girls that came through and even to those that tried but just couldn't make it. I really miss having girl time, I really miss being able to pick up phone and just say "did you hear XYZ? I know crazy right!? Alright I gotta go..." you know nothing Skype, or email worthy, just little stuff you can do because you are right there.

So my girls were helping me cause I was a bit of a cave(wo)man when I first got there... the iphone is/was an anomaly for me...me texting on that thing was a disaster. My fashion was backwards not forward and prices of things, even thought I was trying to "play it cool" were blowing me away. Everyone got me together and by the end I was accessorizing and would even leave my tennis shoes behind..sometimes. My friend Ry actually came through with a suitcase of things just for me to wear (and KEEP!) to Everyone's relief lol.

We picked up a new friend pretty much every day of the visit and it was super sad dropping everyone off :( I'm so fortunate to have had that time though with them for my birthday.

Next stop was Orlando! I took the Greyhound (that's a whole notha story) and arrived to Disney World (after a $40 CAB Ride though!! Almost had a heart attack, that's half of my rent! I'm just sayin....)
To all of you living under a rock, serving as a PCV, living somewhere where the US dollar is strong, or just those good with money...maybe DON'T go to Disney World. When I rolled up to that pristine hotel (Hotel, NOT Hostel) and was greeted by cheery lobby staff my eyes for an instant stung with tears... It was too much. I was like oh man (I think it was that cab ride too though lol). Disney is the apex of all things overpriced, false, consumerist and American dream on speed right? Most would agree, so that just was super shock to my system.

However, minutes later (this is after spending 2 dollars for a FOUR minute call to my mom to get my aunts cell phone numbers) my family from California rolled through the doors and all was right again in my soul and spirit. It was sooooooooooo good to see everyone. I missed them more being right in front of them. The Cali crew is the part of the family I would make my way to go see pretty often with me living in Southern Cali and them just living 5 to 6 hours away in Northern Cali. From there it was all a blur. I thought I was going to have a lot of down time while everyone went to the parks (for 80 something dollars a DAY!)

Well my gracious Soror Aunt sponsored me two days to go to the parks as long as I hung out with her grandson, which was turned out to be a great bonding experience for us. The parks were so much fun. The ratio was 1 adult per kid, but they kept us RUNNIN we were so worn out. I don't know how parents do it!! The kids were a highlight of the trip though, Disney was for them and there were on 10 the whoooole time, we couldn't get them to calm down...
I don't know what more to say about this part. The most treasured times worth mentioning where the walking around and stealing those moments to catch up with everyone and see what's going on in their life. I was filled with so much gratitude to be a part of a family that gets a long. We have so much fun together. My 2nd cousins were definitely pleading me not to go back and Definitely to not stay an extra year. My older cousins were teasing me asking if I herded cattle, had metal plates as to not break them on the rocks I wash them on and if I even wear shoes. Ah, so culturally sensitive :) We had crazy times at the park, fabulous group dinners, slumber parties and laughs galore. I stayed with my Grandma which was an extra treat. She's hilarious. She takes out her hearing aid and continues to talk and ask questions. When you try to answer her, she'll interrupt you and say "Chile' I can't hear you I don't have my hearing aid in!!" and then will continue on whatever rant she is on. Gotta Love Gram!

In the end it was a great trip. I lost my uncle to cancer late last year while I was away and I missed seeing him at the reunion even though he was there in Spirit. That's why we get together every two years, to catch up and celebrate each other now, because tomorrow is not promised to us. We proposed that the next reunion is held in Northern Cali (santa cruz or somewhere around there) in the summer (I think...). Next year we are just goin to get a house or two and do it SUPER Slumber party style. You KNOW I can't wait for dat! Also, October is my Grandma's 90th so I need to be making plans to be back for that.

Oh one last thing, my mom Definitely sent me back with a WHOLE suitcase of goodies...cause that's what visit back to the US are aaalll about for a PCV!!!

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Sistahs Going International

Building the Mocha Mamas on the Move Community Here and on Beautiful World Wonderful People Blogspot as well!

Friday, January 21, 2011

Surprises in Sua...

Hey All! So I'm back in Sua, I returned yesterday.

I has such a blast in the states and I will write a complete recap soon.

I wanted to write about some surprises that I found upon my return and I don't know if I should throw a fit, or pick and choose my battles and let this one slide....

So after over 14 hours of travel by plane and bus, I get off of the final bus that drops me off right in front of my door.

As I am walking to unlock the gate this guy walks right along side of me. He says good morning and waits for me to open the gate...so not in the mood for shenanigans after my long journey I ask if he's a new neighbor here? (has he moved in with the Gernman couple next door?) He tells me that he's doing construction on the building and gestures to the pile of dirt outside of my door and the 2x4s piled up in front of my window and back by the pools....

My apartment looks untouched, they must be doing it in the back or something. As long as I can get in my bed. I don't care. I let the man pass...He proceeds to the back just as I suspected.

I walk into my apartment... do a sniff test...and just as I thought... MOLD. as I opened my unplugged refrigerator I find the culprit...yeeeps...

I really want to just lay down, but I bust out the bleach and get to work...I unplugged my refri because we have power outages and when the power comes back sometimes it's in a powerful burst and can jack up your electronics i.e. blow up your fridge!

I unpack, clean the house, and finally lay down for my "night bus" nap to the sounds of hammers banging somewhere in the buidling.

When I wake up at night, I decide that I have to go explore the premises. I mean I have said "hello" to my pools, to my shower, to my bathroom and most important taken a deep breath or two on my precious most sacred rooftop terrace. My little quiet corner of the world.

With excitement I head right up to the roof first, it's night time, the moon is high and that is my favorite rooftop scene...

I run up the stairs

GAAAASPPPP!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

To my dismay, horror and surprise, I see a whole monument of cement and steel being build allll up on my rooftop completely taking the space from open breezy beautiful to a crowded, icky, construction site.

I thought the guys were filling in cracks in walls or something, I had no clue that they were building a whole new room it appears.

Where am I going to have guitar practice? What's going to happen to rooftop morning yoga? Where am I going to hang up my freshly washed clothes? The rooftop the top floor of my mansion, it's like a hurrican came through and knocked off the the top of my house. Grrrr, Ack, Weep.

So stunned I just go downstairs in disbelief. I have to use the ladies room so I enter my bathroom. Hmmmm the doors closed...I never close the door so that air can circulate but, I guess the neighbors figured I'm gone and would want it that way.

I go in. OH HEEEEEELLS NAW! Apparently the construction guys have been using MY Bathroom! (which is outside of my apartment) Mud all on the floor, SOOO very smelly and to top it all of they have used all the toilet paper I had in there!

So I tell myself to stay calm. Jen, you're probably just mad about this rooftop thing... Or am I?
I mean it's already asking a lot of me to exit my apartment to use my personal bathroom but to share it with countless construction men? Without my permission? Without a chore chart of who is going to take out the trash (you know people don't flush paper in Ecuador right?), who is going to mop the muddy floor, who is going to buy the toilet paper. Cause if I'm sharing the space I'm sharing the cost and responsibility too!

Sigh. So I try to be Zen Jen and not trip. I borrow some TP from my neighbors and leave the door open when I leave. I feel embarrassed at all the "girly" items I have stored in there that countless men have seen now, but what can you do. My private bathroom has just gone public.

So Zen Jen gives it 24 hours and in that time the new roll of TP has been used up. The trash can has filled up and I REALLY don't want to go into detail about what that means...especially since it's only men, sigh....

and the floor that I bleach swept clean is now a mud pit again.

I don't think I can do this people and this is where I need advice!

I mean, construction is temporary, they won't be here forever...should I just bite the bullet and deal with it? I can imagine it's really convenient using a bathroom within the building.

However there IS A public bathroom right on the otherside of me in the comedor (cafeteria) that all the fishermen use.

Should I be punished for having a conveniently located bathroom for all to use? It's my private bathroom that just Happens to be outside. And the door is open to welcome air flow, NOT guests.

I'm going to be passing by these guys daily and I don't want to be the stuck up gringa that can't share.

I just feel more ready to share my home, my dinner table with these guys than my Bathroom, ya know?

Did I mention I also can't shower during the day because they are on the roof and could stare right down....So night cold showers with the huge cucarachas that come out at night is going to be the new jam until the construction is complete.

So am I reacting emotionally to all of the inconvenience this has brought me, or do I have a right to raise some H E double hockey sticks about my (MY) bathroom?

Whatcha'll think?

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

#21 Sound of the Ocean!

I used to keep my fan on non-stop (without exception at night) to drowned out the sound of the city, now I am sure to turn it off at night so that I can fall asleep to the sounds of the Ocean!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Finally New Apartment Pics!



This is to make you feel like you're really there, No clean up, no fronting, just the real deal. This is NOT Cribs haha.

Really I just didn't have any other pictures other than the ones I took as I was moving in...


The pictures of the food is to show you how one can make tortillas and falafels on a bookshelf :) Hey, That's the Peace Corps... Oh and the pic of me on the bed with a bowl and a rolling pin is me either mashing garbanzo beans with the blunt end of my rolling pin or making peanut butter out of peanuts....2 words, labor.intensive.


Features:
Bedroom - a mess...cause I was moving in...but it kinda looks like that right now too soooo...(oh note the no having a closet of it all...)

Living room- all tables featured are glorified cardboard boxes with sheets. It's called Resourceful people. Good thing a week later my apartment flooded...I gotta get some plastic furniture!

Kitchen - a hot mess, I have everything stored AND cook off of the book shelf (but hey it gets the job done and I'm so grateful I have that huge thing) aaaand my no sink no drain situation. I love how in one of the pics you see the hose that is outside hanging through my window...THAT is how we wash dishes here people. Hey did I mention I can see the Ocean from my kitchen too!? It all balances out to me.



Bathroom- it's outside...well I have to leave my apartment to get to it. I just think of this place as my mansion and I have a open ceiling hallway...very nice...



Shower- Also outside, By the three pools I have. It's just mansion style. The shower head is actually pretty great and the water pressure isn't bad either. Taking my first shower WHILE it was raining was a bit of a challenge but then I just pretended I was in the Amazon ;) and on a sunny day it's actually quite refreshing. Not as bad it sounds!

Not pictured: My rooftop overlooking the ocean, one of my favorite places to be!, the three pools out back. I'll post them one day...



That's pretty much it. I have my front yard i.e. the ocean pictures, but I was trying to capture that there were streetlights outside of my house for Peace Corps to approve my house, so they aren't pretty picutres, but you get to see the water and what I see when I look outside of my house.

Enjoy!!







Gabi "putting up" my Christmas Tree. She is the 8 year old in the family I lived with my first month here. She saw the pools I have out back and said she is DEF coming back over. It'll be good to have her :)

Saturday, January 8, 2011

#20 $2.00 Mani/Pedi’s

This is the land of the $2.00 mani and pedi. Now I thought I was going to loooove that. Not one that always has to have my nails did…but yeah I thought I would take full advantage of the cheapness. Turns out I have gotten ONE pedicure and that was like my first month here. Haven’t been back. Not once. So If you come visit, I will take you enjoy the wonders, but as for me? I guess it’s just not my thing. Who would knew!?

Monday, January 3, 2011

Going to the States!

I'm so Excited, so nervous, so not packed yet, so not even really sure of my itinerary. All I know is that I cannot WAIT to see my family and friends. I am going back for my birthday celebration in Miami and then to Orlando for a family reunion. Talk about the best of both worlds! I haven't been back to the States since I started my Peace Corps Service so this should be interesting.

I'm nervous about the culture shock, the price tag shock, all the English (and all of the Spanish I will lose speaking English for two weeks) and being used to looking like Raggedy Anne and not knowing how to "dress up"! All of that stuff does not matter and my anxiousness about them will quickly fade when I see mi gente.

My travel schedule to the states is ridiculous. I have to go to Guayaquil (9 hours away) just to fly to Quito (which is about 5 hours from Sua, and 9 to 10 hours for Guayaquil, but it was the cheapest flight) and then I have about a 12 hour layover then I'm off to the States (on my actual birthday). I am here writing you on the 3rd and I don't know if I am going to leave the 4th on a night bus to arrive in Guayaquil in the morning or just take a day bus on the 5th and catch my flight at 8:00 pm *sigh *. I also don't know if I'm just going to camp out in the airport or if I am going to go through the trouble of leaving the airport finding a hostal and then going back to the airport in the mornin.

I suppose these are all things I will research today, whilst I "continue" to do pack, do laundry and figure out my travel plans!!

Happy New Year and Happy Birthday To Meeeee!!!!
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